Based on surverys, some large percent of people report they attend religious services regularly. But the pews seem strangely empty.
And Richard Nixon was elected president twice but only 20% admit that they voted for him.
IMO, since our social norms still frown on the term 'discipline', it's probably closer to 14% or 21%.
In any case, you are right when you say you don't feel a need to justify your desire. But a number like 14 to 21 percent refutes any claim that Taken In Hand type relationships are unusual.